Conversations w/ My Filipino Grandma (Post #1)

It felt like my little brother swallowed his home-cooked Thanksgiving meal and got up to leave for his next gathering before I can even take a second bite from my plate. This tiny, not-so-pleasant part of the evening is what sparked one of the most meaningful conversations I’ve ever had with my Filipino Grandma.

We touched on a few topics that my younger self would always try to avoid. And, if I ever did bring one of these topics up, it would only leave all parties involved with an angry, sad, or disappointing emotion. This wasn’t the case for our post-Thanksgiving dinner conversation. We talked about the dysfunctional parts of our small family, our different spiritual and religious beliefs, and how we feel about being women.

I learned a few things by the end of our conversation.

  1. My grandma is indeed very open to conversing.

Mind you, this conversation did get very tense. And when it did, I applied the following techniques to bring calm, compassion, and balance back into the space:

  • Reminded both myself and my Grandma to start breathing in and out more deeply.

The next time I’ll be seeing my Grandma is next month, for Christmas (long as none of us has Covid, that is 😉). I’ll definitely be researching tips on how I can share my radical ideas in a way that’ll help her become more open to welcoming them into her reality.

If you’re going through a similar experience, I’d love to hear about it and any tips or ideas that worked for you! Leave a comment here, or DM me on IG/Twitter. Until next time 🙋🏻‍♀️.



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